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A few days ago I was walking down the street & in front of me passed a tall, lean & pretty woman. She wore a tank top & some short shorts. She looked pretty confident until I heard a man behind me shouting & walking after her, “HEY BABY! YES! WE CAN SEE YOU! WE ALL CAN SEE YOU WITH YOUR BOOTY SHORTS & LONG LEGS! YOU WANT TO BE TOLD YOU ARE SEXY? YOU WANT OUR ATTENTION? HEY! LOOK HERE! I’M TALKING TO YOU!”
The lady looked down, nervousness & confusion washed over her face. She was suddenly looking so unsure of herself as she quickly entered the nearest supermarket to avoid the man & his obnoxious words. He kept trying to call to her, clearly having a mission to make her feel more uncomfortable than she already was but she had already disappeared inside. I stood there for a while looking at the situation. I wondered if I should follow her & see if she will be alright, because to be honest, I worried about her. I knew men like that very well. I’ve heard about them. They are the brutal animals that claim to be so self-righteous & perfect while they dare to strip women who “dress indecently” to “teach them proper manners” when clearly they have their own agenda when doing so.
In Mombasa, the idea of stripping women who dress too immorally is something we hear about from time to time. Some people claim this is a great idea as it will teach women not to expose their bodies in public. Even though some of those people, men I mean, actually strip these women as an excuse to unleash their own secret desires of wanting to grope her. And who can she possibly scream to about that when the same crowd chants “She deserves it!”?
But that’s not the only thing that pisses me off
As I watched the lady disappear into the supermarket, next to me stood two women who were very audible about how the woman in shorts was “clearly asking” to be raped. That she will get what’s coming to her & she shouldn’t cry about it. They went on about how such women are loose & are ones that take their husbands away with how they expose themselves so they really do deserve to be punished.
These ladies then laughed & walked away leaving me fuming at them. How I wished I had told them to be ashamed of themselves!
As women, we are supposed to be protecting each other but no! We are the first ones to tear each other down when situation calls for otherwise. This is exactly why men have power over us, because we are divided instead of united. We want to understand & justify why men do or think the way they do instead of really trying to understand each other. How could any woman think another would “deserve to be raped”? How could you bash her instead of bashing the jerk that went upto her? Would you be the woman among the crowd that chants “strip her!” as you watch? Do you not feel any sort of empathy to think some women deserve to be sexually assaulted because of how she dresses?
How about you who is covered up from head to toe, how would you feel if you visited a country where Islamophobia was at it’s peak & people ripped off the hijab/niqab off your head? And this is all because they do not approve of your religion. They do not approve of you.
And allow me to preach religion for a minute…what about you men? Doesn’t our Holy Quran say “Lower your gaze” when you come across a woman (decently dressed or not). That means you have to look away at that you consider “immoral”. It does not say anywhere in the Quran, Bible, Torah or any religious books that you MUST strip a woman of her clothes to teach her a lesson. That, is on your own perverted little minds so please, do not act all Holier than Thou when you actually have other things going on in your head. You don’t like something, just don’t look! It’s really that simple.
Honestly, I can still feel myself burning from thinking about the whole experience. I’m mad at that man. I’m mad at those ladies. But most of all, I’m mad at myself. I asked myself why I didn’t stand up to that man. Why didn’t I tell him to knock it off & mind his own damn business? Why didn’t I go check up on her & see if she’s ok? Why did I just stand there & do nothing?!
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Women it’s time we stick together. Defend each other & not tear each other down. It’s about time.
Thinking about it…it’s not easy to stand against people who think they know it all. It’s not easy to stand against people who will never think twice about the error of their ways. But it is indeed necessary. It might not make much of a difference but it will make you feel strong that you can do the right thing without fear. I’ve learned from this & I’m better prepared to help another woman if need arises.
Stripping a woman off her clothes is never the right thing cause you aren’t stripping her off just that, you’re stripping her off her dignity. Tell me, is that what you want to be proud of when you go to bed at night?
Sending you loooove ❤